Worthy of Love... Love Everyone


If love is simply an inside job, finding the pleased self, then why do we constantly seek it outside of us from others or give it to others in hopes of receiving it back?  If all this love is something inside me and of God then shouldn’t those we give our love to be deserving of it?  When love is given in order to receive it, then it is merely wasted and slung around in delusion.  Once we realize that the love we feel is our own love and connection to God & Self, then we might be careful and mindful of how we use and spend our energy.  When we realize that we are LOVE then we are able to give it freely, without need or attachment to outcome.  We no longer SEEK love in relationship but SHARE love with others because our love is limitless and unconditional because it is connected to the Source.

Everyone is worthy of love, but some of us tend to give our “love” without thought and purpose or to people who want to use us or we use them for an unhealthy purpose.  Ram Dass talks about how his Guru told him to love everyone because what others do with our love is none of our business really.  So maybe the challenge is know if what you’re giving is actually love or just lust or desire or some other illusion of love.  If there is attachment or desire linked to the act of love in whatever it’s form then it’s not really love is it?  It’s simply another illusion that we’ve confused with love.  When I know I am love then I can determine how much of myself I can and want to share with another because in the beginning, love is usually layered with attachment and can ebb and flow back and forth and use up a large amount of energy.  I’m not perfect, no one is, so I must be wary of how much energy I use when I work with others – how much is truly free love and how much is triggering parts of me that are still “under construction” or “under de-construction,” whatever the truth may be for you at this time for there are always parts of us that are more healthy and whole in their expression in one moment versus another.  Layer by layer, moment by moment, whatever part needs to be dominant will be dominant and guide the next move.  All perfect even in the seeming imperfection of the moment.  That’s how we learn, right?  Loving each piece with kindness and self-compassion, otherwise we’re just feeding another klesha (aversion) and further distancing ourselves from truth and growth.  Love everything & tell (yourself) the truth – a high order at moments, one that Ram Dass said took him time because in those teachings he had to relinquish his anger, his and many others favorite form of aversion.

How each of us chooses to love is dependent on our truth and freedom and connection to Self in that moment.  We cannot reasonable judge the quality or quantity of another and how they express it because it's uniquely theirs.  Our job is simply to honor and appreciate how they want to love or be loved in that moment for that is their truth and their full capacity in that moment.  Be grateful for where they are in their journey.  Love them to the next level and let them love you to the next level.

Om Shanti Shanti Shanti.

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  1. Kristina O'QuinnJanuary 4, 2011 at 4:42 PM

    Thank you for posting this. As years go by, I am gradually learning to love as an extension of love in myself and not to receive something. It is nice to be reminded. Very freeing. Thank you.

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