to Commit or NOT to Commit?

Loaded question, right?

After a few days/weeks/months of continued reflection with Self & others and an eye/heart opening experience yesterday, insight came and desires expression today.

I found it fascinating and eye opening to look up definitions of these words:

Commitment (via hyperdictionary.com)

1. [n]  the official act of consigning a person to confinement (as in a prison or mental hospital)
2. [n]  the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action; "his long commitment to public service"; "they felt no loyalty to a losing team"
3. [n]  an engagement by contract involving financial obligation; "his business commitments took him to London"
4. [n]  the trait of sincere and steadfast fixity of purpose; "a man of energy and commitment"
5. [n]  a message that makes a pledge

I was instantly drawn back away from the deluded romantic Libran ideals that often consume me by the first definition, which reminded me that commitment can look many ways to many people - the most troublesome and common yet TRUE: feeling confined & bound & obligated.  After reading those definitions, commitment sounds absolutely dreadful ... unless you feel like you have no stability in life, then it might sound appeasing.  Yet no true stability can be attained outside of us or by externally enforced or acquired things/people/circumstances.

So I mentioned romantic ideals, the "white knight, prince charming or woman of my dreams" stories we here and begin to believe.

Here's the problem:
White always gets dirty then is forever stained. Love the stain & the growth it brought you.
Princes are never charming.  Charms are magical spells, not realistic experiences.  Stay present.
If she's in your dream....well, enough said. It's a dream and anyone or thing in your dream is YOU.

So why are we seeking commitments which only lead to wanting to either truly wanting to commit our partners or ourselves to the crazy house, finding ways to break out of it, or finding ways to build stronger walls to keep them (and us) in?  Desperation? Loneliness? Fear?  But fear of what? Finding out the Truth? The truth that EVERYONE is completely whole & protected & a divine Soul that "needs" nothing but "wants" connection & compassion with other embodied Souls.  A connection that comes only through being present to this moment.

The ONLY GOOD COMMITMENT is the commitment to be present to yourself and those experiences around you in THIS MOMENT, because as Eckhart Tolle says, "the present moment is all you ever have."  And commitment is all based on 'having' - so enjoy having right now with all its elements.  For this moment and all its pieces will never be exactly this way ever again.  How special an opportunity to have!

Of course, this idea of moment to moment commitment is an ideal and not all of us are going to be satisfied and content with right now.  When you have a family and kids, you want to know that the job is stable and that your partner is going to be there to help you and love you and vice versa.  The idea is just to be more here with each other and not focus so much attention on what’s next.  I want reliable and stability as well, I just know that I’ve got to work on that concept in the present moment for it to take shape in future terms.  We learn lessons as we nee them.

*I'd love to hear your thoughts about this & all the posts. For these things are only momentary truths and awarenesses that I'm experiencing and I'm always up for a new experience because it's inevitable :)
*If you'd like thoughts about specific things, please reply & I'll see what comes.


Side note, while I wrote this two hummingbirds flew up to my mint plant. One left while the other flew to nearby flowers then back to my chair, constantly drawing my attention to it.  Check out Hummingbird Symbolism for more but here's an excerpt:
"Hummingbirds teach us fierce independence. They teach us to fight in a way where no one gets hurt. They teach us courage. Having the courage to refrain from creating new trauma by communicating non-violently toward ourselves and others is an important part of healing. Recovering lost parts of ourselves enables us to become healthily independent."